You can be a brilliant tech professional and still be quietly sabotaged by one simple sentence:
“I’ll do it tomorrow.”
The Avoider mindset used to hold me back in many areas of my life.
My mum would often say to me in German:
“Morgen, morgen, nur nicht heute, sagen alle faulen Leute.” (“Tomorrow, tomorrow, just not today, say all the lazy people.”)
At first, it just seemed like a joke about being lazy. But deep down, I sensed there was more to it.
What is “laziness,” really? Lack of motivation? Or maybe it’s that inner voice that appears right when we need to take action:
- “Leave it for tomorrow.”
- “You’re tired, eat something first… then you’ll start.”
- “I’ll start right after I clear one more thing.”
I loved to dream and imagine. But when it was time to act on certain things, I found myself putting them off again and again.
It hurt. It felt like a slow form of self-torture. You know you’re capable, but you still don’t move forward.
And if you work in tech, you probably know this pattern too:
You put things off during the day, then try to make up for it at night, swapping day for night just to finish your work.
This can easily turn into a habit: late-night coding, answering emails, handling incidents, or telling yourself, “just one more task.” And the first thing you lose is your most important resource: deep, restorative sleep.
Over time, this drains:
- your energy and focus
- your emotional stability
- and your health
Everything changed for me at 21, when I first felt a sense of inner freedom:
“I am free.”
Running and focusing on my breath helped me experience a different reality. I realised something important: We can be free from that voice. We can actually enjoy action.
Like any real change, it only became simple when I was truly ready for it. Before that, I was the one making things complicated for myself.
Now, I see that the Avoider pattern can hold us back in three main ways:
1️⃣ Physical
When we always look for comfort, it’s easy to turn to food whenever we feel uncomfortable. We feel discomfort. The fridge can start to feel like a safe place.
Add in sugar, alcohol, treats, and heavy carbs, and your body starts to feel slow, tired, and heavy.
If you also start using your nights as “productivity time,” Your nervous system can lose its natural rhythm.
The result is low energy, brain fog, reduced performance, and increased risk of burnout.
2️⃣ Mental / Emotional
People who avoid things dislike uncomfortable situations and tough conversations. Our real strength is wanting life to feel good, easy, flexible, and in flow. That’s beautiful.
But if we always avoid what’s uncomfortable,
- We don’t grow
- We never leave the comfort zone.
- We end up stuck in the idea of “someday.”
In tech, this can look like:
- avoiding hard conversations with your manager or team
- delaying important decisions
- escaping into endless scrolling or “busy work” instead of tackling the real task
3️⃣ Spiritual / Purpose level
The Avoider pattern keeps us from the things that truly matter, especially when they require courage and action: that project, that change, that step toward your deeper “why”.
If we don’t have a clear sense of purpose, values, or North Star, it becomes much easier to avoid things and distract ourselves than to face what we truly want deep down.
Once we know:
- What do we truly value?
- What kind of life do we want to create?
- Whom do we want to be for ourselves and our family?
It all becomes much clearer:
“I have to move toward this. Not because someone else says so, But because this is my life.”
For me, being free means this:
- physically—not depending on food, alcohol, or comfort, and making sleep a priority
- mentally and emotionally—not getting stuck in endless postponing or self-criticism
- and spiritually—staying connected to my deeper purpose
This takes working on all three levels together.
If you recognise yourself in any of this:
- delaying what matters and swapping day for night to “catch up.”
- escaping into food, screen,s or “I’ll do it tomorrow.”
- feeling stuck between your potential and your actions
You’re not lazy. You’re just caught in the Avoider pattern.
If you’re ready to shift from Avoider to Action, while still protecting your energy, sleep, and health as a tech professional,
Send me a message. I’m confident we can find a way out of that cycle on all three levels.
Remember, with every choice, find your voice for limitless freedom. 🎯
