Some of the heaviest “load” you carry as a tech professional isn’t in your backlog. It’s in your unresolved conversations and unfinished tasks.
There was a period in my life, deep in IT and politics, when the pace was brutal.
During that time, I ended up in conflict with a few people I cared about. Nothing dramatic showed on the outside, but inside, I carried it like a stone in my chest.
I was angry. Hurt. Misunderstood. Like most people, everyone was thinking from their own perspective. So the chances of them seeing me fully were small.
The result?
Even on days when work went well, something in me felt heavy.
Then I did a simple exercise that changed everything: Completing Loose Ends.
When I actually went through it, I felt a huge sense of relief. Lighter. Freer. Like I had just closed a bunch of background apps in my nervous system.
You can do the same not only with people, but also with:
- That project you keep postponing.
- that email you never sent
- that decision you’ve been avoiding for months
Anything that quietly steals energy in the background.
The Exercise: Completing Loose Ends
1️⃣ Make the list
Take 10 minutes. One page max.
Write down all areas of your life where you feel incomplete:
- unresolved conflicts
- people you’re still angry at
- projects half-finished
- promises you made to yourself and never kept
Don’t overthink. Just write.
2️⃣ Identify the biggest energy leaks
Look at your list and ask:
“Which of these is robbing me of the most energy right now?”
Start with the top few. These are your real priorities, not the ones in your project tool, but the ones in your nervous system.
3️⃣ Choose: complete it or consciously release it
For each starred item, decide:
- Will I complete this? (Have the conversation, finish the task, send the message, close the project.)
or
- Will I consciously let this go? (Accept that I won’t get “justice”, bless it, and stop letting it live rent-free in my head.)
This part is hard because the ego wants justice instead of freedom.
But be honest:
Would you rather be “right”… Or finally have your energy and inner peace back?
When I chose forgiveness and completion over being right, I felt noticeably lighter. Freer. My “I am free” state became easier to access again.
4️⃣ Apply the same logic to work
This method isn’t just about relationships.
You can do the same with your work:
- That refactor you know you’ll never do → formally close or redefine it.
- That side project you secretly lost interest in → drop it or decide on a new scope.
- That important task you keep postponing → schedule a tiny first step today.
Unfinished loops drain energy. Closed loops release it.
If you’re a tech professional and you’re constantly tired, it might not just be your workload.
It might be:
- unresolved conflicts
- unmade decisions
- unclosed loops
quietly burning CPU in the background.
Take 10 minutes this week and do this exercise. You might be surprised how much lighter you feel without changing anything external.
If you’d like help combining this with mental fitness (PQ) so you can free up energy, sleep better, and lead from a calmer place,
Send me a DM, and we’ll start closing the tabs that no longer need to be open in your life.
